Today was one of the most awesome days that I’ve had in a long time. Don’t get me wrong, most of my days are pretty good, some are even great, but very few are awesome.  What was so awesome about today you ask…

Besides the obvious…the Lord allowing me to have air in my lungs…today was awesome because I basically just did me all day. I know that sounds selfish but it’s not.

Like most days I was up pretty early. I started my day with some awesome tea and recorded tv. Awesome! I was able to catch up on a few of my favorite tv shows. I watched an episode of Iylana Fix My Life and I felt totally inspired to become a different person. This particular episode was about a couple five years into their marriage who were on the brink of calling it quits. Besides sharing the same name as the wife, the thing that resonated most with me was her mistreatment of her husband.  She was not a cheater or anything like that…she was just condescending and emasculating to her husband. I totally saw myself in her.

I can’t speak for the wife on the show, but what I know about myself is that I was single for so long before getting married that I’ve found it near impossible to relinquish control to Mylover. Because of this I’ve taken on an “I know it all kind of attitude.” Who likes a know it all? Nobody!

I can only imagine how Mylover must feel when I’m always nagging him and telling him what to do…that’s not cool and I learned today that I must stop this behavior immediately. Awesome!

Today was also awesome because I had a realization about why I’ve had a hard time losing this post-wedding weight. I know that I can lose weight because I’ve done it before. I have all of the tools that I need at my finger tips, but I’ve not lost a single pound. Why you ask? Self-sabotage! I believe that I’m carrying a lot of weight in the marriage and rather than deal with that I eat. As I stated before, I’m condescending and emasculating to Mylover (but no more after today). So rather than accepting that I might just push him away one day with my less than stellar attitude (this really is my greatest fear) I eat things that I know that I should not…because at least then I’d be able to say he left because I’m fat. Silly I know, but Awesome that I have clarity about my behavior.

My new found clarity propelled me out the door this morning for a 4 mile walk / run. Awesome!

Today was also awesome because I discovered my front porch. Don’t ask me why, but for the 10 years that I’ve lived in this house, I’ve never sat on the front porch. I’ve always sat on the deck out back and today was no different. I was out there enjoying Ma.d Men on Net.flix just sweating away…then it dawned on me…it’s much cooler at the front on the house. So I moved my Ma.d Men marathon to the porch.  The breeze was Awesome!

The day ended with Mylover and I taking a stroll around the neighborhood. Awesome!

How was your day today?

I’m starting tomorrow…wish me luck.

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Celebrating my sorority with mylover.

Now

At Goal

Filed under: Weight Loss Journey Tagged: weight loss, weight loss journey, weitght watchers ]]> http://myloverswife.com/2013/04/04/now-then/feed/ 1 only1tcb Now 9a1eefd2e10ca8abf917cb2719617ac93faf584f3226e2fb1ad1821ad1c365eb http://myloverswife.com/2013/04/04/you-get-what-you-pay-for/ http://myloverswife.com/2013/04/04/you-get-what-you-pay-for/#comments Thu, 04 Apr 2013 23:34:56 +0000 Myloverswife http://myloverswife.com/?p=1123 Continue reading →]]> You know the old saying, “you get what you pay for!” It holds true in most cases and it holds true with kinky twists as well…

20 days in and I’ve already lost 2 twists. I suppose that’s what you get when you get your hair done in someone’s basement and you only pay $85. I’m not sure how much longer I can hold on to this style. I’m gonna try for another week or two…then it’s back to Zakia. I’ll gladly pay the $185 for twists that will last more that 3 weeks.

The feeling you get when you check the calories of your meal…after you’ve gobbled it up. Only to find that your meal contained damn near all the calories you should have for the day.

1. Sometimes good people do bad things. People are not perfect. We’ve all done something that we are not proud of having done.
2. It’s okay to try something new. I’m in the process of stepping out on faith at work. I’ve decided to pursue a different career path. In years, past I would have talked myself out of applying for a different type of position for fear of failure. But I’ve come to learn that it’s okay to try something new, if it does not work out I can always go back.
3. Forgiving is easy, forgetting is a more difficult. It seems to me that deciding to forgive a person is pretty easy. In my experience, you know right away if whatever has been done is something that you can forgive. So that part is easy. The part that is a bit more challenging is forgetting what has been done. There will be moments when the memories of the incident will strike you, but you have to look past those thought. That is if you’ve truly chosen to forgive.