- Sometimes good people do bad things. People are not perfect. We’ve all done something that we are not proud of having done.
- It’s okay to try something new. I’m in the process of stepping out on faith at work. I’ve decided to pursue a different career path. In years, past I would have talked myself out of applying for a different type of position for fear of failure. But I’ve come to learn that it’s okay to try something new, if it does not work out I can always go back.
- Forgiving is easy, forgetting is a more difficult. It seems to me that deciding to forgive a person is pretty easy. In my experience, you know right away if whatever has been done is something that you can forgive. So that part is easy. The part that is a bit more challenging is forgetting what has been done. There will be moments when the memories of the incident will strike you, but you have to look past those thought. That is if you’ve truly chosen to forgive.
I’m so excited that this year I’ll be celebrating Christmas with no regrets. Even though Christmas comes rain, snow, sleet, or shine every December 25th; it always seems to sneak up on me. Since I’m always surprised by the arrival of Christmas, I’m never quite ready for gift giving. Even with all my spreadsheets on what will be spent when I always end up charging something during the gift giving season. Well no more!
This Christmas all the gifts have been paid for with cash. I’ll be entering the New Year with no new debt. I like this feeling.
How do you prepare for the gift giving season?
You are playing the victim when you take the stance that stuff is happening to you and you have no choice in the matter. When you play the victim when faced with difficult, you ignore, deny, blame, rationalize, resist, and hide from your issue. Victims complain about problems and use excuses to explain failure.
Chapter 1 – Committing to make yourself indispensable
- Making yourself indispensable is not about position, power, or ego. It’s about taking charge over, over-coming obstacles, and achieving your dreams at work, at home, and in your life.
- Making yourself indispensable is about committing to something bigger than yourself.
- Your are either working to make yourself indispensable or working towards making yourself obsolete.
- Six choices that will dictate our life experience
- Purpose Driven or Goal Driven – Goals without a purpose behind them creates a feeling of going through the motions
- Play Big or Play Small – Flying under the radar is a surefire way to remaining dispensable
- Adaptable or Rigid – You can’t stay attached to your old way of doing things if you want to be indispensable
- We Centered or Me Centered – People who are me centered erode trust, teamwork, and collaboration
- Priority Focused or Activity Focused – You’ll be able to do everything, so focus on the things with the highest priority
- Value Others or Disregard Others – Indispensable people help others grow
As I am reading this book I’m focused on work and how I can become indispensable there, but I’m more interested in applying the concepts to my home life. It’s really important to me that I am doing everything within my power to be the best partner that I can be for Mylover.
In what areas of your life are you working to becoming indispensable?
A few days ago I asked are you in the right loop? I promised to give you more from the book Making Yourself Indispensable – The Power of Personal Accountability written by Mark Samuel. While I hope that my readers will find some value in the posts on this subject, selfishly, the posts are for me. I always found that I retained information better if I took notes. These are my notes from the introduction chapter:
- Apart from someone taking your life no one can make you indispensable but you.
- If no one can depend on you, you are useless.
- Becoming indispensable is a process not an event.
- Making yourself indispensable is dedicating yourself to being “counted on” by others and yourself.
- Accountability is not determined by past events. Accountability is an ongoing process based on the choices you make each and every moment.
Thoughts? What are you doing today to make yourself “counted on”?